Hundreds of titles for this post were swimming in my head. Even more topics. A hint of dread was quickly brushed off like the cobwebs that would be resting on this blog if it were tangible as I wondered if I still remembered how to write. Needless to say, it’s been a while, eh? Something to the tune of four months, I believe. It might as well have been four years, what with all the changes that have taken place during the great blogging silence. I could write many pages documenting all the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual changes, but I’m going to write about something that’s particularly of focus: the power of encouragement.
I must admit, though I crave it as much as the normal human being, I really lack in dishing it out. Somehow, if I give some, maybe I won’t have any for myself? As if it’s going to run out, or something. I’m realizing something spectacular. Kingdom fruits never run out. They seem to multiply more rapidly when given out. We’ve entered this new culture where one of it’s many strengths is encouragement. Wow, has it been a culture shock for Jer and I! It’s brought some major exposure to a bit of unhealth, for sure. As much as I despise comparison and know of it’s evils, it’s still in there. I realize it when I see a picture of most everyone on earth vacationing and having the time of their lives while I’m home alone on day 24 of 28 of being a single parent. Just as I’m about to post something kiddingly-sarcastic, comparing their good time to my alleged lonely misery to get some sympathy, I read the comments from other friends, “I’m so happy for you!” “That looks so fun!” “That’s awesome!” I stop. Wow. Those guys are being so nice and encouraging and they’re not on vacation, either. Some of them are even actual single parents, not temporary ones like me.
Encouragement brings freedom and allows beauty to flow. I’m telling you, people here are encouragement dealers! I’ve decided I want to not only be a user, but a dealer, too. Oh, the high you get when someone says, “Your hair looks so cute!” Whatever! I know that seems so shallow, but seriously, you know how good it feels! “That color is good on you.” “Awesome new song!” “I love the way you take pictures!”
Being delighted in is the most amazing thing. More and more, I’m grasping the sheer joy and freedom that comes, knowing that my Father delights in me. Instead of starting my devotions in shame, thinking of how I don’t spend enough of my day in concentrated devotion, how I blew it when I yelled at one, or all, of my kids an hour ago, and all the other reasons for Daddy to say, “Bad girl,” to me, I am reminded that He delights in me. How I am redeemed in Him. How all that other stuff is a dead me coming back to haunt me (yeah, I like Kris Vallotton’s imagery), but He wants to bring the real me more and more to life because He loves who I am dearly. Oh, what a feeling! Oh, how I want to parent like this more and more! My kids need to know that I delight in them so much! I am starting to shower them more with encouragement, and wow, I’m seeing more and more of their beautiful, true selves and less and less of their bickering, whiney behavior coming out.
Encouragement is powerful and life-transforming. When I feel loved, delighted in, and encouraged, I feel safe and free to be who I really am. It’s ridiculous to think that I always had all of that in Him, but I was looking for it solely in people (which seems to come hand-in-hand when you have the fear of man like I did). I desire so much to be that to everyone around me. I really do love you. I don’t talk behind your back and criticize you after I smile and flatter you to your face. I delight in who you are. You are beautiful. That color really looks good on you. I love your new hair cut. Those jeans are hot! I love hearing you sing. That is an awesome work of art. And, Jer’s and my favorite new way to encourage in this culture, “COME ON!” Ahhh, that felt so good. Wouldn’t you know it? There’s even freedom and joy when you give encouragement! I’m addicted! This new chapter of life will be one saturated in encouragement! Oh, the life that’s about to flow!